Every year NISA Women’s Helpline receives approximately 4000 calls regarding mental health, domestic abuse, self-esteem and faith related issues. As we approach Eid-al-Adha we must remember that while these celebrations can be joyful, they can also be tense and stressful. As such, NISA has compiled a list of suggestions to help you enjoy your holiday and remain stress-free.
1. During the days of Eid, family, friends and members of the community will come together. These close interactions can often lead to disagreements and conflict. Display patience and tolerance, diffuse situations before they get out of hand and give yourself and others space when needed.
For example, as a guest at a community event, you may face long lines for food and activities. While waiting can be difficult, it is essential that you are respectful and kind to the other guests and to the volunteers – you don’t want your short temper to sour someone else’s day!
Similarly, while hosting family, you may find that your guests are prone to argumentation. Clearly communicating your needs, desires and expectations, respecting others’ space and providing a quiet area where individuals can have alone time may prevent conflict and ameliorate tough situations.
2. Another source of stress may be the desire to have the ‘perfect’ Eid gathering. While generosity is a part of faith, grand expectations of yourself and your family can put you all in undue hardship. Have realistic expectations, delegate tasks, follow through with the tasks that you have been assigned to and don’t compare your party or gathering to that of others.
3. There are many members of our community who are alone on Eid. Welcome them into your homes, invite them to your gatherings or at the very least, share a kind word when you see them. Make it a goal to get to know at least one person on Eid day. You will be surprised at how brightening someone else’s day can bring ease into your own.
4. Finally, it is important to remember that every person is at a different point on his or her spiritual journey. If you see someone who is struggling, remember that you also have your own challenges. Encourage others in a gentle manner and do not be harsh with them for any reason. Eid is a celebration of compassion and mercy so display these qualities to those around you.
You may find, that despite your efforts, you are still struggling on Eid. If you feel the need to talk, remember that NISA Women’s Helpline is always here to listen and help.
Eid Mubarak from all of us at NISA Women’s Helpline! We wish you and your family the very best on this happy occasion!